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A Note to Single Moms: Let Go of Your Past Hurts and Negative Thoughts

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 As a teen/single mom, I heard every negative thing in the book. I was told (by a high school guidance counselor, no less) that my son wouldn’t amount to anything and he would probably end up in jail, because he was a minority, poor, born to a teen mom, with no father in the picture. I could have used this as an excuse to sit and wallow in all the obstacles I had before me, and not made anything of myself or my kid. Did I? NOPE. I didn’t let what she said get to me. This made me set out to prove her wrong. I also had men in my life tell me nobody would want me with a kid, how valuable could I be if I were dumb enough to get pregnant so young, etc.  I was bullied in high school. I didn’t have many friends.  I let it all roll off. Why?

Because I was not going to allow  someone else’s opinion of me change where I wanted to be in life. People’s opinions of you are their business, not yours. We can choose to go where we want to go. I was raised by my grandmother to strive to be the best at everything I did.  So, I got my GED, earned my bachelor’s degree, and am halfway through my master’s degree. My son is now in college and I am so proud of him. “We won’t get anywhere, she said”…. NOT! Jesus affirms our worth. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John (3:16.) If God loves you this much, who can be against you? No one. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and do what you have to do.

NOTES to Single Moms

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Single motherhood is so challenging! You might struggle to pay bills, juggle all the responsibilities on your own, rob Peter to pay Paul, loneliness, and feeling inadequate because you can’t provide all of your kid’s needs, wondering why your life can’t improve, getting discouraged, giving up hope. I remember the frustration of working overtime, not having food in the house and dealing with a screaming child alone. It’s rough. But as a single/former teen mom who made it, I want you to remember that you can choose success, and you can choose a better life for yourself if you remember that you are not alone. God is with you, He will not leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5-6).

The keys to success are simple and I will summarize them for you according to what worked for me in the next few posts.